On average, couples have sex once a week. But don’t let that determine how much you and your sweetie are getting it on. Instead, you should be getting however much sex it takes to make both of you happy in your relationship.
Whether you’re newly dating someone or you’ve been together for years, it’s always helpful to learn about turn-ons. That way, you can change your sex life for the better.
To help you out, here are 6 common turn-ons for men you need to know about!
Physical looks can only get you so far. You could be the most objectively attractive person on the planet, but if you don’t have confidence, your sex appeal can fall flat.
We know how much it can sting to get rejected, so you might be afraid to approach your guy and initiate sex first. But just keep in mind that the worst thing that can happen is he’ll say “no”, which isn’t the end of the world!
Once you bite the bullet and approach your man with confidence, he’ll be amazed at this new woman (or man!) standing in front of him. There’s nothing sexier than confidence!
2. Eye Contact
Eye contact goes hand-in-hand with confidence. If you don’t have confidence, then it might be hard to maintain eye contact. But trust us, this one’s definitely worth it to work on!
Whether you’re just sitting at the bar and having a conversation with him, or you’re in the bedroom about to get hot and heavy, try locking eyes with him for an extended period of time.
They say the eyes are the window to the soul, and there’s so much you can express with a simple look.
If you’re feeling adventurous, try out a smoldering look. Or if you’re feeling naughty and mischievous, give him a suggestive look with a raise of your eyebrow. Or if you’re after a deep and romantic feel, look earnestly into his eyes.
No matter what you choose, it’s sure to give him shivers down his spine!
3. Deep Conversation
This might seem like a weird turn-on, but for many people, sexual attraction isn’t just skin deep. They need to make a real connection with someone before they can even think about hopping into bed. They say the brain is the biggest sexual organ, after all.
Deep conversations allow your man to really see who you are. It shows a more vulnerable side of you. Not to mention, it also shows him what you’re passionate about, which can also be a turn-on.
When he feels like he’s made a genuine connection with you and you’re bonding over similar interests, then this can increase your hotness factor significantly. Next thing you know, you’ll be in the sack!
4. Red Lingerie
Lingerie’s already a given when it comes to turn-ons for men. It’s the color of passion and it’s proven to increase excitement and blood pressure. So you might want to even wear a red dress (or shirt/suit) and red lipstick to get his heart racing before the clothes come off.
Underneath, you’ll want to wear some red panties and bra, or other lingerie of your choice. The main thing is that you feel comfortable and confident!
If you’re able to feel sexy in your own skin, then you’ll ramp up sexual attraction to the max. Once he sees you in some sexy red lingerie and that you’re feeling good about yourself, he won’t be able to keep his hands off of you!
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Chances are, your guy works long hours. When he comes home, he complains of pain from his head to his toes. What better way to show your appreciation for him than to give him a relaxing massage?
Massages allow you to get intimate without sexual contact. He’ll melt in your hands, feeling the sensual and loving touches all over his body.
You can then use the massage oil to glide your hands close to his groin, teasing him about what’s to come. You can also have him close his eyes for the massage so not only can he enjoy the massage fully, but also so you can stealthily strip at some point.
As the massage gets more and more sensual and you’ve gotten him erect, you can lean over and let your body graze his so he realizes you’re naked. Lean in for a kiss and let things get wild!
Who needs to go to a strip club when they’ve got their own personalized striptease at home?
Welcome your man home by sitting him in a chair. To spice things up a little, you can tie him to the chair so all he can do is look, not touch.
Now put on some music and start a slow, almost tortuous striptease. If you’re feeling a little shaky about it, feel free to practice beforehand so you feel confident in your dancing skills.
As you gradually take your clothes off, get in close to him, but don’t touch him, at least not yet. Once you’ve gotten most of your clothes off, feel free to straddle him as part of the striptease.
By the end, he’ll be chomping at the bit!
Explore These Turn-Ons for Men
After learning about some common turn-ons for men, you should take this knowledge and apply it to your own bedroom.
Just keep in mind that not every man will like every turn-on. If yours doesn’t, don’t take it personally. Just keep this in mind, and move on to other turn-ons to explore what works and what doesn’t for him. In turn, you just might be able to unlock some hidden parts of your relationship you’d never accessed before.
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